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I’m So Average: The Journey of a Soccer Mom

I’m so average! There, I said it—not just to myself but to the thousands of fellow parents out there.


But am I the only one responsible for this feeling? Right now, I find myself in a transitional phase of life, juggling my mental and physical health, ambitions, and the heavy weight of generational trauma—all while managing the schedules of the superstars of the future, and their hectic schedules.


So, is it her or is it me? A question I ask myself very often.  



The Micro-Manager's Dilemma: Raising a Mini-Executive

Did I mention that my little one has a busier life than most C-suite executives? Yes, her schedule is packed with activities that could rival any corporate agenda. It’s not like she popped into this world demanding a jam-packed calendar; these extracurriculars are a product of her having to micro-manage her newly converted soccer parents and our lofty aspirations for her. If she had her way, I’m sure she’d prefer to embrace her wild unicorn spirit, radiating glitter and sunshine instead.


So, is it her or is it me? The dilemma is ever present in my mind. 

The Uber-Competitive Ecosystem: Shaping Future Stars

We live in an ultra-competitive world where every child is carefully shaped and prepared for the future. In this environment, academic excellence is a must, alongside a plethora of extracurricular activities ranging from music lessons to sports. While these commitments can be taxing on the children, they are equally demanding for the soccer parents, who have made a conscious choice to juggle their lives, careers, and household chores, yet devote an unhealthy amount of time (and resources) driving and shuttling their kids around to various activities.


So, is it her or is it me? I do realise it is a choice I make for myself, as much as for my child.  


The Secret Life of Soccer Parents: Pushing for Greatness

Let’s be honest—sometimes we soccer parents can get a bit carried away, pushing our kids just a tad too hard. Why? Because we see their potential, that spark, and we want the world to see it too! We believe in them so fiercely that we can't help but encourage them to give that extra 10%. Our encouragement comes from a place of love and a desire to see them thrive, we push them to seize every opportunity and to savour every victory. Sure, we might get overzealous, but we believe that hard work, resilience, and the sweet taste of success are invaluable lessons for them.


So, is it her or is it me? I run my own solo race to be a better parent! 

A balancing act between a soccer parent and a future star

Dear children, yes, your parents push a little, but it’s because we are your biggest fans. We know you have a champion inside you, and in everything you do! 


That extra push teaches you to value hard work, the strength to dedicate yourself and the willingness to persevere. It eventually helps you build a resilience for all that your life will throw upon you, the inevitable ups and downs. You learn discipline and time management, just as much as you learn to balance your game, your school, your peer, your fun times, and everything else.

A balancing act between passion and practicality

It is crucial to monitor the effects of this pressure; too much can lead to burnout, stress, and they may lose their passion for the game. Striking the right balance is essential—while we want them to be their best, we also need to support and celebrate their efforts, ensuring the joy of play remains alive.


Is it truly necessary for soccer parents to get their kids involved in sports as early as possible?


This question sparks heated debates among parents. On one hand, early involvement can be beneficial, allowing children to develop crucial skills like coordination, teamwork, and strategic thinking. It can ignite a lifelong passion for the sport and keep them active and healthy, instilling valuable lessons about commitment from a young age.


On the other hand, some argue that starting too early can place undue pressure on kids, leading to burnout or a loss of interest. Childhood should be a time for exploration and play, and overscheduling can strip away that free-spirited joy. It’s essential for parents to consider whether the child genuinely enjoys the activity or if the push is more about fulfilling parental aspirations. Early specialization in one sport can also limit opportunities for kids to explore other interests and discover new talents.


Ultimately, be conscious you are playing a balancing act. While early involvement in extracurricular activities has its advantages, prioritizing a child's happiness and well-being is vital. Listening to their needs, encouraging diverse interests, and maintaining a healthy balance between structured activities and free play can ensure our young stars enjoy the best of both worlds.


The ultimate balancing act: our waiting time and their time in the spotlight

Ah, the life of a soccer parent—one of waiting, cheering, and a near-Olympic level of dedication to our kids' extracurriculars. Have you ever noticed how much time we spend just waiting? We’ve practically earned a Ph.D. in Patience! Whether in the carpool line or on the sidelines, we’ve mastered the art of killing time, balancing coffee cups on our knees while perfecting our sideline cheers.


But why do we do it? Why are we so dedicated to this whirlwind of practices, games, and tournaments? It’s simple: we’re in it for the love of the game—our kid’s game. There’s a unique joy in watching your little one sprint down the field, even if it means enduring hours of waiting. Plus,  it’s not just about soccer; it’s about being there for every triumph, every stumble, and every laugh along the way.


Let’s not forget the social perks! Being a soccer parent means joining a community of similar, crazy parents, parents we can relate to on a different level while sharing tips, tricks, and laughs (and car pools). We swap stories about the best local coffee shops, the quickest routes to away games, and how to survive a rain-soaked Saturday match. 


Yes, we spend a lot of time following our kids around, but it’s absolutely worth it. Every minute spent waiting, every early morning, and every cheer is a testament to our dedication and love for our budding soccer stars. Cheers to us parents! 


Finding the Balance: The Soccer Parent’s Final Play

In the end, being a soccer parent is all about finding that perfect balance. Our dedication and support are crucial, but it’s equally important to let things unfold naturally. Embrace the waiting game, cherish every moment, and remember that our ultimate goal is to keep the joy alive for our young athletes. Let’s celebrate being soccer parents—the champions of balance, support, and organic growth. After all, the best memories are made when we blend dedication with a touch of spontaneity.


Dedicated to all the unsung heroes, the cheerleaders of sporty kids, 

Tanya


xxx

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